Living Loved: From Performance to Rest in God’s Love
You can’t give what you haven’t received. Think about that for a moment. How many of us have tried to love others while running on empty ourselves? We push harder. We try more. We tell ourselves we just need to be better Christians. But deep down, we’re exhausted. Here’s the truth that changes everything: God never asked you to manufacture love. He asked you to receive it. The Foundation of Everything Paul writes something remarkable in Romans 5:5: “God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.” Notice the language. Poured out. Not dripped. Not rationed. Poured. This isn’t theory. This isn’t something that happened once at your conversion, and now you’re supposed to remember it fondly. This is present tense. Active. Ongoing. The Holy Spirit is pouring God’s love into your heart right now. But here’s where most of us get it wrong. We treat this verse like information instead of invitation. We memorise it for a test instead of receiving it as our daily bread. We believe it happened without letting it happen again today. God’s love isn’t something you graduate from. It’s something you live from. Before You Do Anything You live from love before you act in love. Read that again. Your actions flow from your position. Your obedience flows from your relationship. Your service flows from your sonship. Too many believers have it backwards. We think we need to obey our way into feeling loved. We think if we just serve more, pray more, give more, then maybe we’ll experience God’s love. But that’s not how it works. Jesus didn’t tell His disciples to love others, and then they’d know His love. He said, “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love” (John 15:9). The command is to remain. To stay. To receive. You can’t remain in something you haven’t entered. You can’t stay in a love you haven’t received. The Holy Spirit’s first work in your life isn’t to make you useful. It’s to make you loved. Not to get you busy. To get you rooted. Not to send you out empty. To fill you up first. The Daily Rhythm This changes how you start your day. Most of us wake up and immediately start thinking about what we need to do. Our minds race to our tasks, our problems, our responsibilities. We hit the ground running. But what if you started differently? What if your first thought wasn’t about your performance but about your position? What if before you considered what you need to do for God, you remembered what God has done for you? The Spirit wants to meet you there. In that quiet moment. In that still space. He wants to pour love into your heart before you pour yourself out for others. This isn’t selfish. This is sustainable. This is how Jesus lived. He withdrew to lonely places to be with the Father. He spent nights in prayer. He received before He gave. And He calls you to do the same. Love Changes Obedience When you live from love, obedience looks different. It stops being a burden. It stops feeling like duty. It starts feeling like response. Like gratitude. Like the natural overflow of a heart that’s been filled. Think about it. When someone truly loves you, don’t you want to please them? Not because you’re afraid of losing their love, but because their love makes you want to honour them? That’s the kind of obedience God is after. Not the obedience of a slave trying to avoid punishment. The obedience of a son or daughter responding to a Father’s love. John writes, “We love because he first loved us” (1 John 4:19). First. The order matters. His love comes first. Your love responds. His initiative. Your response. His filling. Your flowing. When you try to obey without receiving love first, you end up tired and resentful. You feel used. You wonder why no one appreciates you. You burn out. But when you obey from love, you feel energised. Not because the work is easier, but because you’re connected to the source. You’re drawing from the well instead of squeezing water from stones. The Question You Need to Ask Here’s what you need to get honest about: Where do you still try to earn what God has already given you? Where are you working for acceptance instead of working from acceptance? Where are you performing for approval instead of living from approval? Where are you striving for love instead of receiving love? Be specific. Is it in your ministry? Your relationships? Your prayer life? Your giving? Many of us have subtle ways of trying to earn God’s love. We don’t say it out loud, but our hearts believe it. We think if we pray longer, He’ll love us more. If we serve harder, He’ll be more pleased. If we get our life together, He’ll finally be proud of us. But God’s love isn’t earned. It’s given. It’s not a wage. It’s a gift. It’s not conditional. It’s covenant. The Spirit wants to break that mindset. He wants to free you from the treadmill of performance. He wants you to stop working for what you already have. This Month’s Journey That’s why we’re spending this entire month on living loved. Because it’s that important. Because it’s that foundational. Because everything else in your Christian life flows from this one truth. We’ve prepared resources to help you not just learn about God’s love but to actually receive it. To experience it. To live from it. Our Prayer Guide, “Abide, Receive, Release”, will lead you through daily rhythms. Simple practices that centre your heart on receiving the Father’s love, responding in obedience, and releasing love toward others. These aren’t complicated exercises. They’re gentle invitations to let the Spirit do what He does best: pour out love. The Bible studies on “Love Poured Out, Love
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